Chaos in my future

Chaos-complete disorder:state of utter confusion.

1. People create their own chaos. So they live in it.

•    Chaos is not where God intended you to operate, live, or function. 

• Sin led Adam and Eve down, sin led David down, sin led Saul down, sin led Samson down, sin led Jonah down, sin led Judas down, where do u possibly think sin will led you?

•                Chaos.

•    Sin will always take you farther than you wanted to go and keep you longer than you intended to stay.

•People think this is a way of life, chaos, not knowing that Christ offers freedom from sin, freedom from the world, the flesh, and the devil.

Romans 6:16 (NLT)

"Don't you realize that you become the slave of whatever you choose to obey? You can be a slave to sin, which leads to death, or you can choose to obey God, which leads to righteous living."

•    Surrendering my life to Christ is that freedom.

•    I watch people ruin their relationships, ruin their families, ruin their careers, ruin their relationships with God, and ruin their future with chaos.

• God did not call us to manage our chaos or manage our sin, He has called us out of darkness into His light.

• In darkness there is fear, chaos but in the light there is peace and eternal life.

2. People are directly affected by someone else who has placed them in chaos. So they run it or it runs them.

•    Have you ever seen someone placed into so much chaos that it destroys them?

• They can't function. They can't operate.

• They get depressed, frustrated, angry, resentful and refuse to be mobilized so they shut you out and shut you down.

•    Have you ever seen someone placed into so much chaos that it defines them?

Illustrate here: I am Second/Josh Hamilton

• The reason you won't have chaos in your future is because you have the peace of God in your present.

3. People even in the midst of chaos can place their complete, absolute, confidence and faith in God.

• For centuries the garments of European rulers and judges have been lined with ermine fur.
• The story behind that custom highlights one of the most unusual behaviors in the animal kingdom.
• An ermine is a cute little animal with shiny black eyes and beautiful fur.
• It has short legs and a narrow body that's some 20 inches long from the top of his nose to the end of its tail.
• In summer, its coat is a rich chocolate brown except for the undersides of the body and legs.
• In winter, the color changes to a clear white, broken only by a black tip on the tail.
• If you looked up a picture of the ermine at the library, you be shocked by the purity of its white fur.

• The ermine seems to realize the beauty of its coat and takes great pride in maintaining it.
• Indeed, the animal's most unusual characteristic is its hatred of anything that might soil its fur.
• Hunters who know this will fill an ermines burrow with filth and wait with their dogs for the furry animal to return.
• Once the ermine spots the dogs, the snow-white creature will dart for the safety of its burrow.
• But the ermine will not enter the soiled safety of its home.
• Rather than flee into the borrow, the ermine will fight the dogs to the death.
• It would rather die with a bloodstained coat than live with a dirty one.
• That's why the ermine's fur is used on the robes of rulers and judges.
• It serves as a symbol of the purity of justice and law.
• Don't you find it amazing that God programmed an ermine to prefer a fight to the death over a soiled coat?
• It's instinct for purity outweighs it's survival instinct.
• We need a similar instinct.
• We need to realize personal holiness is a value worth fighting for.
• Henry Peacham's Emblem 75, which depicts an ermine being pursued by a hunter and two hounds, is entitled "Purity bought with his own death."

• Peacham goes on to preach that men and women should follow the example of the ermine and keep their minds and consciences as pure as the legendary ermine keeps its fur.
• This ermine has a vision for his future and it has nothing to do with ruining his reputation, ruining his outward or inward being, or laying his life down for nothing.
• There is a cause worth fighting for it's called purity.
• Unethical behavior creates chaos.
• Relationships without borders equals chaos.
• Shopping with credit equals chaos.
• Laziness equals chaos.
• Immoralities equals chaos.
• Driving with no speed limits or laws equals chaos.
• And living the Christian life haphazardly and without restraint equals chaos.

Hebrews 12:14 (NLT)

"Work at living in peace with everyone, and work at living a holy life, for those who are not holy will not see the Lord."

Holy-dedicated, consecrated to God. Morally, spiritually excellent.

• Our future has everything to do with placing our trust, confidence, and faith in God.
• Moses trusted God and saw the Red Sea parted.
• Joshua trusted God and saw the walls of Jericho collapse.
• Mary trusted God to give her a child that would change the course of history, Jesus Christ.
• Samson, filled with God's Spirit, ripped apart a lion with his bare hands.
• Elijah trusted God and saw a widow's son raised from the dead.
• Sarah in her barrenness trusted God when He said He would give her a child in her old age.
• Paul trusted God and saw countless people brought to faith in Christ as a result of his preaching, even though he didn't consider himself a good speaker.
• These men and women weren't great because they possessed superior intelligence, physical strength, overwhelming talent, gifting, or ability.
• They were great because they relied on God's power.
• The Spirit of God led Jesus to the cross, my sin nailed Christ to the cross, love held Him to the cross, but God paved the way to heaven through the cross. 
• Testimonial of the purity of a right relationship before God.
• You don't have to have to have a robbed em', shot em', slept with em', drugged it up, drank it up, smoked it up, hurt everyone in my path testimony, as a matter of fact God does not want that for you.
• He has a vision for your life and it is paved in purity.
• He has a blueprint for your future but it requires surrender.
• He has peace for your everyday but it requires faith in Him.

Jeremiah 29:11-14 (NLT)
"For I know the plans I have for you," says the Lord. "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. [12] In those days when you pray, I will listen. [13] If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me. [14] I will be found by you," says the Lord. "I will end your captivity and restore your fortunes. I will gather you out of the nations where I sent you and will bring you home again to your own land."

Psalm 34:19 (NLT)"The righteous person faces many troubles, but the Lord comes to the rescue each time."

   
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10 things your teenager hates about you

Ten Mistakes Parents Make with Teenagers–People-Employers-Teachers-Principals-Counselors-Coaches-Youth Pastors. 

·        We have all made these mistakes, make these mistakes, and will continue to make these mistakes.

·        Our purpose is to get us to recognize these enemies and make the effort to fight all these enemies away.

·       Teenagers have listened to so many influences for the past 17 to 18 years about everything they are supposed to do or be. We have to honor them in their life, their progress, their spirituality, and their God mission.

·        Our enemy’s purpose is so clear.

John 10:10 “The thief's purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.”

#1 Teenagers Hate Inconsistency: Failure to Be a Consistent Model

·        How many of you hated when your parents said, “"Do as I say, not as I do."

·        I hated their inconsistencies.

o       I wanted a path to follow not several. S tudents appreciate the truth.

o       They will hear it, accept it then abide by it if they see it working in your life and if you are willing to patiently, mercifully, guide them into it. I promise.

§        It’s consistency that has done the miraculous in our lives and ministry.

§        It’s consistency that our students see that has made them desire the same in their lives.

o       Parents who fail to be consistent will raise inconsistent students.

§        Inconsistent in their careers, their relationships, their attendance, their bill paying, their spirituality, and in every area of their lives.

§        God has placed us in the lives of our students to guide them…in…every…thing.

§        Consistency changes lives.

Galatians 6:4 “Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won't need to compare yourself to anyone else. 5 For we are each responsible for our own conduct. 6 Those who are taught the word of God should provide for their teachers, sharing all good things with them. 7 Don't be misled—you cannot mock the justice of God. You will always harvest what you plant. 8 Those who live only to satisfy their own sinful nature will harvest decay and death from that sinful nature. But those who live to please the Spirit will harvest everlasting life from the Spirit. 9 So let's not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don't give up.”

#2 Teenagers Hate when you act as if you are never wrong: Failure to admit when you are wrong.

·        "I'm the adult. I'm right."

o       I can not tell you how many times I have gone to my sons to ask for their forgiveness.

o       I make many mistakes as a parent but I realize that my sons respect me for being able to say I’m wrong a whole lot more than if I act as if I’m perfect through every circumstance.

·        I have seen that through my experience with my own parents.

·        After admitting that you’re wrong repent and move on.

·        Admission is the first step to healing but there are more steps.

o       Adulthood does not create maturity. 

#3 Teenagers Hate Dishonesty: Failure to give honest answers to honest questions.

·        "Because I said so, that's why."

·        Even though they’ll use it on you they hate when it’s used on them.

o       Teach them how horrible it feels when you’re lied to.

·        Sneakiness is forbidden in our home.

o       Tell me the truth. I can handle anything as long as it’s the truth.  

#4 Teenagers Hate when they can’t dream for themselves: Failure to Let Your Teenager Develop a Personal Identity

·        "You want to be what?"

·       My wife and I had a student that was driven to succeed by his parents and their education regiment. I am not against education at all I’m a huge advocate but when God speaks to a student, a person young or old I desire them to pay attention and listen to His voice.

o       He told them about the call that he felt God had upon his life, they laughed at him, then scorned him, and finally told him that his idea was completely ridiculous and that there was no way he would be in ministry.

o       He deals with frustration, disappointment, shame, when he could have been receiving their blessing, their prayers, and their support instead.

·        They are Christians.

·       He, after many years of fighting off their discouragement is in ministry touching many, many lives every day.

·       He may not be rich, he might not be what they called him to be but I believe he honors them every moment in a godly way by following the voice of God.

#5 Teenagers Hate when you don’t acknowledge the Good: Failure to Major on the Majors and Minor on the Minors

·        "This room is a pig sty!"

·        Nice job cutting the grass. It’s looks okay…if you’re blind.

o       No matter what stage a student is in their training and upbringing we have to encourage and acknowledge the wins.

o       We also must discipline, in a godly way. Never provoke our children to wrath.

Ephesians 6:1 “Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. 2 "Honor your father and mother." This is the first commandment with a promise: 3 If you honor your father and mother, "things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth." 4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.”

·        Of all the people in a student’s life the most influential is the parent. Tell them you love them, tell them you’re proud of them, and tell them how amazing they are cause at the end of the day that’s what they are looking for.

o       I just needed some affirmation.

AFFIRM-validate, confirm: to state positively: to assert: to express dedication to.

#6 Teenagers hate that adults refuse to love beyond performance: Failure to Communicate Approval and Acceptance

·        "Can't you do anything right?"

Ephesians 6:4 “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.”

·        God has given us power but power in the bible should never be abused.

o       Our children are an extension of us in body, mind, soul and spirit so God desires us to treat them with nurture, respect, tenderness, and love.

o      When you caution them, when you counsel them, when you reprove them do it in such a manner as to not provoke them to wrath(stir up purposefully-inciting anger) but endeavor to convince their decisions and work upon their reason.

#7 Teenagers hate when you judge their friends: Failure to Approve Your Teenager's Friends

·        "Where did you find him?"

o       Teenagers hate lectures.

o       Your student wants you to trust their decision making process.

·        Trust the people they have around them until you have a reason not to.

·        And then help your student make the right decisions with their friends.

·        If there is influence that you see that is harmful speak up but realize that your student could be rubbing off on them in a positive way as well.

·        If you’re communicating well with your student then you’ll know what’s up and if you don’t then the communication breakdown needs to be addressed.

o       Know them know all the things about their friends not just what you think you see but have them around you to really see their friends.

·        Invite them to your house and then don’t be a jerk the whole time they’re there.

#8 Teenagers hate that perfection is the requirement: Failure to Give Your Teenager the Right to Fail

·        "You did what?"

·        You are a child of God and you are the son of a pastor you will not act like that, ever. You will be perfect.

o       I promise this will do more harm than good. I’ve seen so many students destroyed in this very manner.

o       There are better ways to say “Hey is that really the image that you want to portray to the world of the Christ that lives in you?”

·        Get them thinking and reacting on their on.

·        When we treat them this way our actions are no better than theirs because we’re having a judgmental attitude toward their actions.

·        As parents we are to teach, train, and disciple not brow beat them into the image of our likeness.  

·        Give them room to fail. Then teach them to fail forward.

·        Grace-The view that Christians have on grace is that it is undeserved mercy that God gave to us by sending His son to die on a cross to give us a way to be with Him for the balance of eternity.

·        Mercy-Compassionate behavior on the part of those in power.

·        Grace and mercy is room to fail.

1 John 1:9 “But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness. 10 If we claim we have not sinned, we are calling God a liar and showing that his word has no place in our hearts.”

Consider the kinds of people God has hired onto His staff team over the centuries from this very familiar list:

·        Noah was a drunk (Gen 9:21)

·        Jacob was a liar (Gen. 27)

·        Leah was ugly (Gen. 29:16-18)

·        Joseph was abused (Gen. 37:22-28)

·        Moses had a stuttering problem (Exodus 4:10)

·        Gideon was afraid (Judg. 6:15)

·        Samson had long hair and was a womanizer (Judg. 16:5-17)

·        Rahab was a harlot (Josh. 2:1)

·        Jeremiah and Timothy were too young (Jer. 1:6)

·        David had an affair and was a murderer (II Sam. 11:2-4&14-17)

·        Elijah was suicidal (I Kings 19:4)

·        Isaiah preached naked (Isaiah 20:2)

·        Jonah ran from God (Jonah 1:3)

·        Naomi was a widow (Ruth 1:3)

·        Job went bankrupt (Job 1:21)

·        Peter denied Christ…several times (3x) (Mark 14:71)

·        The disciples fell asleep while praying (Matt. 26:40)

·        The Samaritan woman was divorced, more than once (John 4:17-18)

·        Zaccheus was too small (Luke 19:2-3)

·        Paul was too religious (Acts 22:1-5)

·        Timothy had an ulcer (I Tim. 5:23)

·        Lazarus was dead (John 11)

#9 Teenagers hate that they can’t ask questions: Failure to Discuss the Uncomfortable

·        "Do you mind if we talk about something else?"

·        There are some things that must be discussed in the home.

o       Do not wait until your son/daughter is in college, in a marriage, in a relationship that has gone too far, or in a financial crisis before you talk about the uncomfortable.

Proverbs 22:6 “Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.”

·        Train them up in every aspect of their lives not just the spiritual.

o       Students want you to talk to them about the everyday. They want you to ask the hard questions.

o       They want to trust you with the mistakes they have made and are going to make.

#10 Teenagers hate that they can’t ever come first: Failure to Take Time.

·        "I'm kind of busy right now. Could you come back later?"

·        There are more important things in your life besides your career, your finances, your retirement, your friends, or your hobbies.

o       You must make the efforts to succeed in their lives no matter their age.

§        I want my kids to come to me at all stages of their lives knowing they can trust me to hear them out then help them make decisions.

o       If you continue to put your students life, hobbies, recreation, sports, school work, friends, interests, or your love for them on the back burner when you get time they will be no where around.

o       Students want you to be interested in the things they are interested in not so you can join them in their passions but to again affirm them.

   
December Series

Solid Rock Family Church
508 Hunters Run Road
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